1st Press Conference

After much debate , everyone ( gals) I guess agreed that money is NOT a problem. After much mind- tuning and discussion with other friends, the problem does not lie with the money. It's just me.

I believe in all that has been said. Ideally the girl would care about you, she would not be that materialistic, she would be understanding and bla bla bla. Of course, after all it's love that got both of us together. Since we have figured that money is not a problem in sustaining/ mantaining a relationship, let move on the the reason I wrote the article. ( Notice that I have been single all my life and my knowledge is based on observation/ reading only)

I believe in giving the best for my partner. I want to spend on her. I want to buy her the best gifts and give her the best outings. I would certainly hate to break her heart by not being able to fulfill her wishes. When i'm in love, I'm sure I won't count the money. Pretty sure. I don't want to enter a relationship knowing I can't provide her with all these. Many see me as a thinker rather than a feeler. I know what I am. Just because you don't see/feel the romantic me doesn't mean I DON'T HAVE IT !!

Back to reality, in my case I barely survive with my monthly allowance. I receive RM 30 credit a month which is sufficient for now. I'm a simple person who seldom goes out or spend on myself. When I do, I don't have to worry about another person. Life is never going to be easy adjusting to another person in your life. But sacrifices is necessary. This is where commitment comes into play. I don't think I'm ready to commit. Some say you meet lots of wrong ones before meeting the right one, but I don't want to meet lots of wrong ones and end up hurting their feelings. Is it fair to enter a relationship knowing your not ready for it and then not being able to give your best ? End of the day was she the wrong one ? It's different being hurt and hurting another person. Knowing me I always pull myself up easily but the other party how do you justify your actions? The way I'm feeling now can't be summarized or put in words. I'm merely stating my situation. Some may understand, some may not but do keep the comments flowing as it helps me improve and learn. It makes me understand better too. I guess other will learn too.

To those who have commented/ who have read the comments , here are a few things to ponder ;
1. Have you ever entered a relationship ?
2. Are you happy being with that person NOW ?
3. Has any r'ship been succesful ?
4. How many times have you been hurt / hurt someone ?
5. Regrets ?

I believe in practising what you preach, only then people will take you seriously. Only then people will have respect for what you say or do.


p/s : how do u know which is the wrong/ right one ?

pp/s : feel free to critisize/comment on anything about the blog/me/the topics discussed. Life is all about learning