point taken.

" hmmm....the way i see it..u r a guy standing up high on a pedestal..looking down at ppl with relationships...u r too afraid to come down n have one yet u tend to judge them whichever way it supports ur fears...u want a relationship...stop defining people in ur context n look upon them for what they reli are...in short...come off ur pedestal b4 n e one kicks it..b4 u lie on ur back like a flipped turtle..good advice from a fren..take it.. " - her reply.

ho..hoo..hoo...i'm a turtle guy.i'm a leatherback turtle. the one which is on the list of protected animals.who would want to flip me ? u ? guess wat ;ain't that bothered. what i wrote was my opinion. it was not an article to serve in everyone's interest.

let me defend myself from ur point of view.

1.standing on a pedestal ? i'm more like a guy sniffing the ground for a relationship.i don''t look down upon people with relationship. i just don't believe that some relationships are gonna last. even u are not sure wat the future holds for u.

2. i have fears. i admit. rule 9 of my life - never judged anyone. i din not even have a single clue on u when u asked wat was my first impression of u. i did not have one at that time. now i do. don't ask.

3. of course i want a relationship. who doesn't. 'all study and no life makes jack a dull boy'. maybe i'm choosy. maybe i've just got rules which prevents me from dating any gurl on earth. just because ur dad might be cool bout cross-religion/race relationship does not mean every parents are cool and hip with the same thing. i for one know what my parents want and i hate to see them suffer and get embarrassed because of my actions. so what if i'm single and i'm sooo choosy about relationships. heck even u've had 2 failures. u don't practise wat u preach. think about it. i on the other hand still believe in 'like one, love one, marry one. the one.'

4. i do not define people in my context.i define people on who they are. the person they really are. maybe i'm wrong at times.i'm no god. correct me and i shall learn.

5. the way i look at the pedestal. it's still rox solid. kicking it ain't gonna help resolve issues. if i fall, i'll get up, dust myself, climb up the pedestal and continue doing wat i've been doing. that's my way of life.

p/s : u've responded.i appreciatte it. hope things are still cool between us. hope the articles would not be hurting u. if it did, i'm trully sorry. i prefer to learn. let's keep this an open topic/discussion if u don't mind. i like when i'm challenged. it makes me think more. it inspires me to write more. U, my friend have done just that. u challenged me. i like it.